Common Phrases White People Need to Stop Saying
Some everyday phrases that white folks often say without realizing the deeper impact they carry. Addressing these phrases and understanding the reasons behind them is a good step toward being more aware and working toward being anti-racist. Here are a few phrases that need to go .
1. “I’m not racist!”
Let’s get real: in a society shaped by systemic racism, we all have biases — it’s not a personal failure, it’s just how things are. Acknowledging that these biases exist doesn’t make you a “bad” person; it’s a part of understanding how racism impacts everyone, consciously or unconsciously. Rather than feeling defensive, it’s more effective to take this awareness and work to address those biases.
2. “I don’t see color.”
Unless you’re actually colorblind, saying you “don’t see color” ignores real and different experiences people have based on race. When people say this, they often mean they want to treat everyone equally, but denying color can also mean denying the privilege and power dynamics that come with it. Recognizing color means seeing the diversity and richness of people’s lives and acknowledging how society impacts each person differently. So, let’s not shy away from this — lean in, listen, and learn.
3. “I was raised to love everyone equally.”
That’s a wonderful foundation, but being kind doesn’t erase biases. All of us, no matter how nice we are, carry implicit biases because of the society we grow up in. Being anti-racist means actively working against these biases rather than just hoping they don’t exist. It’s about ongoing effort and self-reflection, not just good intentions.
4. “If I talk about racism, people might think I’m being aggressive.”
If your friends see you as “too much” for bringing up racism, they may not have your best interests at heart. Working to be anti-racist is more meaningful than worrying about whether people see you as “nice.” Put your energy into learning, unlearning, and having important conversations. Being genuinely supportive of others matters way more than staying quiet to seem agreeable.
Let’s keep doing the work to grow, learn, and make space for more understanding. Thanks for tuning in, and remember — it’s about progress, not perfection!